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Falling In Love. It's Easy Once You Know How.
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How would you like to find out how to make someone fall in love with you? Or, if you do not want it to go that far too fast, become irresistibly attracted to you? It can be done and has been done in thousands of cases, thanks to Relationship Psychology. You can learn the technique, if you are willing to practice it step by step for a few weeks. It is not rocket science. It is more high-tech interaction. Just think of the powerful one-two punch you can muster! First, dating sites like this one that enable you to meet as many others as you want over a relatively short period of time. Second, the ability to use techniques that practically guarantee you will get the results you want. The process involves making him remember and revisit a previous love and then asking three questions, each one including the previous answer. Then, as illustrated in the examples that follow, feeding back what you have elicited in the proper sequence. It is not so much the story content you are interested in, but the sensory aspects -- the sights, the sounds, the feelings. Let's look at three different examples to find out how it works and what to say and do.First, love strategy elicitation, from the perspective of a woman meeting a man for the first time, after a series of emails and an introductory phone call. She steers the conversation towards a time, years back, when he first knew he was in love. His eyes light up and he seems to be back at that moment. What was the first thing that attracted him, she asks? Was it something that woman said, or did, or something he saw? After he answers, she asks for the next thing, and so on. It does not take long to compile all the things that made him fall in love before. What she has obtained is a simple blueprint of his love strategy. Basically, she has found out what sensory appeals are important to him and in what order they should be presented. She is then in a position to feed them back in the same order and produce the same results, without his even being aware. So she goes back to the future. He had indicated that it made him feel close when he held hands while walking (sense of touch). He liked sharing dishes in the restaurant (touch again plus sense of taste). He liked dancing on a Friday night.(touch again plus sense of hearing). He liked talking for hours about anything and everything (sense of hearing again). He liked taking long rides in the country on Sunday mornings, enjoying the views. (sense of sight)
The correct sequence for his particular love strategy is TOUCH -->TOUCH + TASTE --> TOUCH + SOUND --> SOUND --> SIGHT.
So what do you think she does?
She holds his hand as they walk? (TOUCH)
She asks if she can sample
his dish in a restaurant and offers to do the same with hers. (TOUCH + TASTE) She finds out where there is a good band and suggests that they get there early so they can take advantage of the slow sets before the loud stuff starts. (TOUCH + SOUND)
She prepares a picnic basket for their ride in the country the next Sunday, and suggests the most scenic area she can think of. (SIGHT)
Do you think he will be able to resist the application of his own strategy, all other factors being equal? Absolutely not, since he himself has furnished the sensory appeals that produce the result and has also indicated the order in which they should be employed.
All she did was reprise the previous state he had been in when he fell in love before, then ask the sensory questions in the manner explained in the next example.
Note that it is not necessary to engage in the exact same actions or activities that he mentioned during the elicitation, so long as you adhere to the sensory pattern and sequence. The results will be the same.
Though observation
and a series of questions, you can find out what has to happen in what order
for it to come to pass. Applying the correct strategy can heat up a long
standing marital relationship that has started to cool somewhat.
Here is how it
works in actual practice. Try it on yourself first.
The person is
asked to remember a time or incident when he or she felt absolutely totally in love,
and to go back and experience that time again. The objective is to put the
person in the same state as before to facilitate drawing out the components.
The second thing
you have to do is determine the starting representational mode (visual or auditory or feeling) and then the
others that come in to play. The person is then asked, in turn, questions that
will indicate the successive modes.
First, a visual
question, such as: “In order for you feel that kind of love, is it absolutely
necessary for your partner to show you that you are loved by taking you to
certain places or bringing you things or looking at you in a certain way?”
Observe the reaction and listen to the answer.
Next, ask one
involving auditory. “In order for you to feel that type of love, is it
absolutely necessary that your partner tell you, in a certain way, that you are
loved?”
Last, a
kinesthetic question: “In order for you to feel that kind of love, is it
absolutely necessary for your partner to touch you in a certain way?
After you have determined
the representational mode that was most important, you return to that mode and
find out the submodes that were most important and their degree of intensity.
It is only necessary to extract the major submodes used. Work your way through as much of the array as is necessary to get the picture.
A full explanation of submodes is contained in the Core Lore Manual. Basically, they are the descriptive words that define the mode. For example, if the mode is visual, some of the submodes would be brighter or clearer or closer or bigger. If auditory, louder or faster. If touch or feeling (kinesthetic), coarse or or heavier or sour or sweet smelling.
Next, the syntax or order in which all the factors were applied is determined. Again, use questions, external side first, then internal.
Here is where you question the answers.
“You said that the first thing that attracted you was the walk. What was the next thing that attracted you? Was it something else you saw or something you heard. Was it something he did? Was it the way he touched you? What was your reaction? “
Go on to internal questions. “Did you make a picture in your head? Did you say something silently to yourself? Did you have a certain feeling inside after what you saw or heard
or felt?
The proper way to elicit strategies is with this type of precision probing, designed to draw out both the inner and outer modes, then the particular submodes attached to each, and then the sequence. The procedures are explained in greater detail in the Core Lore Manual and the Special Reports. You
can rest assured that all of those things will enhance the relationship. There really has been no manipulation. Only a meeting of minds and emotions and a matching of strategies.
The first example above was based upon an action sequence that replicated the love strategy of the other. That is one way of feeding back the sequence.
Another way is to cast the feedback in the form of a story or narrative. All that is required is that the content be different than the storyline the other has told.
The important thing is to feed back the sensory-based context. The new story you tell can be anything, as long as you adhere to the correct sequence.
For example, suppose you have determined that her love strategy is SIGHT --> -->SIGHT FEELING --> SOUND -->SOUND -->SOUND. Here is what you might say to her, after you have unearthed her strategy.
You can rest assured that playing back his strategy in the fashion you elicited will produce positive results. And if you repeat the process with a different storyline, and also carry out, in action form, the same sequence a few times, love will enter the picture in lockstep with the passion you feel for her. The techniques described above constitute just a small part of the
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