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Tame The Bad Ones. Eliminate Excess Baggage.
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Is it the best of times or the worst of times for you? If you have been looking for love in all the wrong places, or if you have recently separated or divorced, or are recovering from a failed relationship and floundering, your life can change very quickly. It can become the best of times. For two reasons.
First, thanks to the internet, it has never been easier to find someone who meets your expectations.
For starters, you need look no further, for access to an
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The dating site links on the left, each among the best on the internet, give you the opportunity to choose from millions of people. You will never run out of opportunities. Second, a new field of relationship psychology has developed in recent years that shows you how to quickly establish rapport with anyone you meet and actually find out the things that person relies upon for friendship and love. You can have it all if you follow the suggestions and then take action. Nothing is ever accomplished without forward movement. It builds momentum and propels you into new orbits. First things first, though. You have to get rid of toxic residues from past encounters. You have to flush them out so that you can enter new relationships less encumbered. You have to restore your energy, resourcefulness, and passion for living. Easier said than done? Not any more. Relationship psychology can come to your rescue.
If you want to develop a loving relationship and improve the quality of your life, you must learn how to handle and treat bad things that have happened to you before and are stored somewhere in your memory. If you do not, then any dating contact you make and try to build upon will be tarnished from the start and will also take a heavy toll on your health and on your ability to get things done. On the flip side, and even more important, you must also become adept at enhancing past positive experiences, also residing in your memory, then using the associated feelings generated as a potent resource for the present. Almost everyone acquires excess mental baggage as time goes by. That is why it is so important, going into any new relationship, to clean your mental house. Accumulated debris should not be permitted to taint your present. You want to salvage only the positive memories and fortify them with even more positiveness and passion. And scrap or nullify those that caused mental pain and agony. The good news is that experiences need not remain in your mind as originally perceived. They can be restructured and used as a potent resource to build current relationships. The bad news is that very few people know how to do that. The following technique is part of the Baratt Core Lore System. A full explanation of that and other ideas can be found at Personal Improvement Center. This technique revolves around a concept called Experience
Indexing. To understand how and why it works, you have to know how the brain stores information. To begin with, we are all a bunch of liars when it comes to storing
experiences because the data that is stored does not represent what
actually happened but only our perception of what happened. It has been established that the brain can only absorb five to nine bits
of data at a time, yet it is constantly being bombarded with much more
than it can actually handle. To avoid self-destruction, the brain filters the information, deleting, distorting, and generalizing before letting in the information that will become your version of the event. It is a very personalized version , the
gospel according to yourself. A far cry from what actually happened. So, since every memory is a fabrication anyway, because it does
not represent what really happened but just your perception of what really happened, why not take advantage of the situation and restructure to benefit you more? Sounds incredible, doesn't it? But it is very easy to do, and the results will surprise you. Any relationship can thrive or be revived just by concentrating on this one technique. The amazing thing is that our subconscious will accept, as true, any recast version of an event that is vividly imagined. So how do you go about enhancing the good memories and neutralizing the bad ones? All you have to do is watch movies or pictures of what happened in two different ways. Rapidly. Over and over a half dozen times. That's all it takes to get great results. So what are the two ways? First, you have to change the experience so that it is more to your liking. You are the writer, the director, the producer of the movies of your mind. You have the ability to mentally visualize any storyline you desire and to make casting changes any time you want. Second, you have to change the stage settings in which the story unfolds. You can put on any of the multiple hats at your disposal, since you are also
the lighting director, the sound engineer, the wardrobe designer, and
so on. In short, you own a major studio that can produce academy award movies that are shown in the theater of the mind. For a detailed explanation of this and other breakthrough techniques that can help you and your significant other bond more effectively, go to Improve Any Relationship If you have not yet discovered how much control this ability to rewrite and screen your visualizations gives you over real life situations, then you can prove it to yourself in very short order. Look at it this way. Whether you want to or not, your mind will be working 24/7 projecting movies on your mental screen. You have the option of letting them run in random fashion or asserting control over what is shown. To repeat, the mental restructuring of an event can be approached in one of
two ways: 1) by changing the storyline, or 2) by changing the setting. Storyline changes are limited only by your
imagination. You own the copyright to the experience. You can change hats any time you want. Remember that you are the producer, the writer, the actor, and the director. Your ability to visualize has no limits. Change the ending. Change the
characters. Change any part so that it comes out the way you want,
with you as the hero. Make sure you play the new tape over and over
in your mind, with as much feeling, emotion, and passion as you can muster. Setting refers to the framework or
structure or stage upon which the story unfolds. When you make mental
changes, you deal with the senses - sights and sounds and touches and tastes and smells. For example, you can visualize the scene, as you view it on your mental screen, as closer, clearer, bigger, brighter. You can hear it louder or lower pitched or faster. You can feel it smoother. If applicable, the taste can be made sweeter, and so on. By increasing or decreasing the intensity of what you see, hear, touch, or taste, you can
easily enhance the positive experiences or neutralize the negative ones. The results will amaze you. In actual practice, such changes are very easy to make, and rapid. For example,
if you are working on a negative scene you want to neutralize, you can
make it smaller and darker and further away and fuzzy, with muted colors,
with barely audible sound, and so on. It will quickly lose its hold on you. Remember that you are also the Art Director, the Lighting Engineer, and the Set Builder
of your internal production. If it is a positive experience you want to enhance, the same protocol
is used. Kick up the size, the clarity, the closeness, the sound, the color,
and so on. The key is to do it rapidly, again and again, until it takes hold. The more
passion you can muster, the more successful you will be. The brain cannot tell the difference between an actual happening remembered or one
that is changed and saturated with passion. The techniques described above constitute just a small part of the
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